Its the bois screen authors that just need to standardize setting names and locations. There were several settings in mine that could of been "Intel VT-x" but nothing specifically named that. I chose the wrong guess as to which one it was that first time.
The problem is you need to know the bois settings alias names as they relate to the message in vm because vmware can't possibly know what whacky labels your bios setup uses. It is obvious the bois screens are made by non ux people. (freakin scary when programmers attempt to interact with users without supervision)
I am guessing there is no utility that could do this automatically or else vmware would offer it.